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One of our “superfans” asked, “What did we do to start, from 0 to 1?”
- We are not experts, just a couple sharing our journey to inspire and help others.
- For every person and time the process will be different.
- Our lives are so complex, we learn different ways, our life experiences
- There isn’t a magic formula or 5 steps, if there were it would be in the Bible.
We describe our pain, our first steps, and remember you are not alone.
But we have 5 principles:
- Stay connected to God [future episode]
- Local church
- Bible reading/listening, individual or together
- Pray out-loud together
- Commit to your relationship [future episode]
- divorce is not an option, unless unfaithful or abusive
- It doesn’t seem possible at the time
- Being on the other side, it’s a wonderful deeply meaningful place to be, to have worked through it
- Logic doesn’t heal hurts, it helps pull you through
- Baby Steps: worst day now better than the best day then
- Keep trying, keep learning [future episode]
- Read, watch, listen, discuss
- Authors we found helpful
- Gary Smalley – Drive Thru Talking, Five Levels of Communication
- Gary Chapman – The Other Side of Love (Anger), The Five Love Languages
- Emerson Eggerichs – Love and Respect
- Be honest [future episode]
- “I feel this way right now” but that doesn’t mean it’s forever
- Self Realization
- Outside influences
- Talk, Hold, and Cry [future episode]
- Important for both
- Share feelings and needs
- Capture your thoughts
- Find the bigger issues
Question we asked on FB
“What is the biggest thing that couples struggle with?”
Honesty (2), Quarantine, Communication (3), Money (2), Self Esteem, Agreeing how to parent, Controlling, Communicating Expectations, Cooperation